You have probably met someone that’s a bully, whether that’s at work, at school, or at any other place. However, in some cases, people can find a bully where they least expect, and that’s within themselves. If you find yourself developing such a personality, make sure you try everything to change that.
Here is a list of bullying behaviors and the way you should fight against them.
1. Control!
Such people need to control others as a result of their own insecurity. They can’t improve their own self-esteem so they turn to others. Bullies tend to control every situation and person and strive to ruin other people’s confidence only to improve their own. They find satisfaction only in power.
If you have a similar side to your personality, it is high time to self-examine. Who are the people that shake your self-confidence? Once you know the answer, try to confront them.
2. Victim to Impulses
These people can’t control their emotions. When experiencing some negative emotions, they don’t care about the consequences of their actions or words.
In such situations, they can easily hurt other people’s feelings. Make sure you recognize your fears, as well as their triggers. But, do not let anger or other negative emotions control you.
3. No Empathy
A lack of empathy can be caused by feeling the distress or pain of others too often, resulting in an emotional burnout. In some cases, these people can block the pain as it’s too uncomfortable for them, by distancing themselves from other people.
Then, they start stereotyping or labeling them, instead of seeing them as individuals. This makes it so much easier for them to cause suffering.
However, they can gain back other people’s empathy by respecting their individuality with all of its flaws and problems. They should try to feel their pain which will help develop compassion and a feeling of peace and comfort.
4. Zero Accountability
Bullies act as victims in every situation and do not take any responsibility for their actions and words. They always have someone to blame for their deeds. If they hurt someone in such situations, it is simply not their fault.
In such a case, they should show some accountability for their actions, and admit that their reaction to the problem was probably not the healthiest one. Try to find what would be the right reaction to a negative situation.
5. Intolerance
Bullies divide people into “those who like me” and “those who don’t”. The second group is always criticized and persecuted because of the stereotyped and prejudiced differences. This is a very common detrimental thinking that is found in many areas of life, from social life and race to religion.
They can overcome this negative feeling by allowing others to have their own point of view, no matter how different it is. Instead of attacking those with different beliefs, they should try to understand them!
The video below shows the author Noah Elkrief who explains how to overcome bullying.
Via David Wolfe | David Wolfe | David Wolfe | Psychology Today | Positivity Blog
